If you currently suspect your spouse/partner of significant other of cheating, and you’re looking for signs of an affair, you know there is nothing worse on earth than not knowing. Having experienced a betrayal, I know firsthand this is true. I can deal much better with what I know than with what I don’t know. And, the not knowing can drive you absolutely bananas. There are signs of an affair, and after reading this article you’re going to be much better equipped to deal with the nagging questions that can cause many sleepless nights.
I’m not sure where the professional get the statistics, but they say 50% of men who currently suspect there partners of a cheating are correct. And, an astounding 85% of women who feel that way are right on the money. Let’s face it. We live in a society that promotes betrayal, and even feeds economically off the failures of marriage and the breaking up the family. It’s just the facts, jack. If you doubt it, consult your local attorney.
But, there are signs of an affair that can give you a leg up on knowing if your partner may be cheating. Here are a few things you need to watch:
Are They Spending an Uncommon Amount of Time Away From Home?
Are they suddenly spending a lot of time with a friend. “Uh, Bob called and needs me to help him with a work project.” Uh, huh. Are they not at home where they used to be? Every now and then, no big deal. But, when it becomes a regular part of your routine, there may be cause to be alarmed.
Has your sex life gone to pot?
Again, is there a break in your routine? One of the signs of an affair is simply: has your partner lost that special interest in you? With women this a little more complex, but men are quite primal. If they’ve apparently lost their sex drive something at least of psychological nature is going on and worth investigation. Being direct here isn’t a bad idea. “Honey, I’ve noticed we haven’t made love a whole lot lately. Have you lost interest in me?” Watch closely the response to that one. It could be telling.
Are they expressing a lot of interest in your schedule?
This could be a big tip-off. Especially if your partner didn’t have much interest in it before hand. This isn’t rocket science. If they are watching you watching them, if your relationship as become more self-conscious, it could be a sign of cheating.
Do they leave the room to take their phone calls?
This could be nothing or it could one of the key signs of an affair. If it happens over and over again, it’s time to take note. How come the calls from mom are now taken outside? Has the phone line to work suddenly become a hot line and private? Are they spending inordinate amount of time locked up on the phone?
Have they suddenly taken a private email account?
This is another example of something that may have one time been open between the two of you that they now guard and have made more personal. Why did they open a different email account? Why is their time now on the computer a private matter?
There are certainly a ton more signs of an affair, if you suspect your partner of a betrayal. But these five give a start. Be alert. Pay attention. And, when the time is right, be direct. This is your life. No one knows it better than you. And, no one has more at stake.
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